Words Matter

Even the single word you call something or someone by makes a HUGE difference on how you think of it/them . . . or at the very least frequently shows HOW you think. 

As a case in point, I was once privy to the conversation between a group of young ladies, admittedly not one of them was a member of a tea club or likely enjoyed knitting, and the girlfriend of a young man who had been more than a little . . . expressive of his negative opinion of said group of young ladies.  The group correctly pointed out they had not harmed this young man in any way, nor had they even inconvenienced him in the slightest, and yet he had made it a point to go out of his way to insult them quite loudly.  He had stalked off, but they had approached his girlfriend (who was familiar to some of them) with a mixture of outrage and confusion because what had started this young man’s tirade was a mystery to the group, and they were of the opinion that if he didn’t like them, it would be nice if he kept that opinion to himself . . . at least until he provided a reason WHY he disliked them so much.

The girlfriend’s response was “I don’t see why he should care one bit about the opinion of ________.”

Now, at this point, for the sake of clarity, please fill in your least favorite slur, be it racial, social, or political, to get the true meaning of what she said, the kind of slur that has no ACTUAL meaning other than “I don’t like you, and I REALLY don’t respect you.”  

Done?  Good.

The slur SHE used was “whores.”

Now, I’ve no doubt this group of young ladies numbered members that were sexual active, though perhaps no more so than young ladies who WERE members of a tea club, but this really was beside the point.  But that one word revealed that, in the speaker’s mind, the young ladies before her weren’t people with hurt feelings and a justifiable grievance . . . they were merely “whores.”

Which in practical terms said nothing about the young ladies, but VOLUMES about the speaker.


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