Archive for October, 2015

“It” Is Kind Of Funny That Way

October 16, 2015

While “it” is better for me today, from what I’ve been hearing, “it” has been going around lately.

I guess we’ll all just have to hang in there together until “it” blows over.

I’ll Let You Know How It Turns Out

October 15, 2015

I still don’t have a precise definition for “it,” but I have decided that, at least for today, I’m just going to ignore “it,” get on with it, and have a good day despite “it.”

“It” Is Difficult To Explain

October 14, 2015

It is starting to become a problem again.

It’s a bit difficult to precisely define what “it” is, but no matter what it is, “it” is definitely starting to get to me.

Days Like This I WISH My Schedule Was Only 9 to 5

October 13, 2015

Tumble outta bed, and I stumble to the kitchen.
Pour myself a cup of ambition,
And yawn and stretch and try to come to life.

9 to 5 by Dolly Parton

Say Goodnight, Lala

October 12, 2015

Some days are better than others, and yesterday was one of “those days” for this household.  Everyone was feeling discontented and generally inclined to be vocal about it.  So much so that by day’s end when Lala told me she was going to sleep, I asked her if she wanted to chat a few minutes first just to try to change the day’s mood before it was completely over.

“So we don’t have to chat about anything in particular, but the rule is neither of us can complain about anything, and if we can’t do that, then best we say goodnight now.”

She pondered that for a moment, looked me dead in the eye, said “Goodnight,” then turned and walked away.

That was one of the few laughs I’d had that day, so . . . thanks for that, Lala.

Bad Marriages (Part Two)

October 9, 2015

And it was bad . . . really, really bad.  They divorced . . . eventually, but they stuck it out longer than they probably should have, and do you know why?  If you do, say it with me:

Because so many people said it was going to be bad, trying to prove them wrong became a matter of pride for this couple.

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving someone fair warning, particularly if you see trouble ahead, but when it’s repeated over and over again, be it just by you or by a group, it becomes nothing more than opinion bullets, and again, pretty much the only result of firing those is causing your target to take cover and entrench.  So unless you want that to happen, keep your mouth holstered and stop thinking that because something is “your opinion” that makes it some kind of magic bullet.

Though actually . . . now that I say that, in a sense it is kind of like a magic bullet; fire it often enough and you pretty much guarantee that you’ll get the opposite of what you were shooting for.

So use those magic bullets wisely, okay?

Bad Marriages (Part One)

October 8, 2015

(This is a continuation of yesterday’s thought.)

Since people want to talk about marriage so much lately, let’s talk about marriage for a bit, and not the “Yay! marriage” variety favored by L’s Mother, but the kind of marriage that I personally oppose . . . you know, the “bad” kind.

A bad marriage is a unique form of misery all its own, and I’ve seen more than a few in my time, but one in particular comes to mind right now.  This marriage was just a bad idea from the start, so much so that people literally came from miles around to spray their unwelcome opinion bullets at this couple.  This was done mostly by family and friends, of course, but there came a point where it seemed like even strangers were crossing the street to say “Wow!  You two should not get married!”

Do you think this made a difference to the couple?  Well of course it did!

It made them want to get married even more than they had wanted it before, causing them to entrench on the matter, pretty much guaranteeing that they’d get married.

And they did.

That’s Just A Waste Of Ammunition

October 7, 2015

Yesterday’s question was important enough that I’m going to ask it again today:

Can you recognize when your opinion isn’t a welcome one?

Can you?  It’s an important skill, you know.  If you’re going to shoot your mouth off, you need a better reason than just because it’s filled with opinion bullets.

(Even more on this tomorrow.)

Recognize

October 6, 2015

One of the trends I’ve noticed on social media lately has been people vehemently proclaiming some variation on “I can have an opinion on this!” (usually regarding a subject that in no way affects them personally).

Yes . . . yes you can, you can have your opinion.  That’s not even an issue.

But can you recognize when your opinion isn’t a welcome one?

(More on this tomorrow.)

Curses and Candles (A Special Website From My Son)

October 5, 2015

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(Today my son and I went over the importance of editing, spacing, and punctuation in his entry above.  We also discussed word choice a bit when I asked him if “puff” was the word he really wanted to use?  I thought “poof” might be more what he was going for, but he was adamant that “puff” was the word he wanted to use, so we agreed it should stay.)