Archive for the ‘Candle’ Category

Today’s Safety Tip (And Feel Better Soon)

May 10, 2022

While it’s okay advice to “grab with both hands what life gives you,” as a caveat, if what life is giving you is straight out of the oven, put on oven mitts first.

Rest In Peace, James

March 18, 2022

A couple days ago I got the news that a cousin of mine had died unexpectedly, and I’ve been processing that news ever since. We weren’t close either as children or adults; in fact, I don’t think we exchanged even one word between us once we were grown.

But we played together as children.

This candle’s for you, buddy.

But On A More Serious Note (Part Four)

February 4, 2022

I’m of two minds on if yesterday was an adequate wrap-up for the topic of the week, or if there’s more that needs to be said.

Actually, that seems rather appropriate.

The topic of suicide, like the act itself, can be a messy, convoluted business, and at the end of the day clear answers and feelings may not be in the cards. (What is it with me and gambling analogies lately?)

I’ve shared a little bit of what has helped me and others through those dark moments, and hopefully that will at least help you find your own reason(s) to live if you need it. Maybe I know you, maybe I don’t . . . but you’re not the first person to have those thoughts, and even if you were, that would still be okay. Life can be hard sometimes.

Maybe you feel like you don’t deserve to live, which is not true, but even if it were, consider this: Pick the worst person you can think of from history, a real monster . . . someone responsible for sickening atrocities that make it hard not to think that the world would have been a better place if they had never been born.

Somebody still loved them, and somebody mourned them and missed them when they were gone. Maybe it was only a single person, and maybe this historical monster didn’t even know that they cared.

But they did. There’s always someone. Always.

Maybe it’s me.

Good luck out there. I’m pulling for you.

This Candle Is For Them

December 27, 2021

“Merry Christmas” and the like is said so often that it’s easy to forget that many people did not have a Merry Christmas.

Oh, And Merry Christmas

December 25, 2021

Congratulations to all those involved in the successful launch of the James Webb Space Telescope.

A Quick Candle For My Son

November 24, 2021

I want to commend you, son, for realizing that much of what people argue about today are indeed “social constructs.” (I’m presuming your mother introduced you to that concept because that’s not a turn of phrase I use.) Once you think about, you start to realize that it’s frankly impossible for every place that claims, for instance, to make “the world’s best pizza” to actually make the world’s best pizza no matter how passionately their fans argue the point.

Once you realize that, you can appreciate the different styles of pizza and pick your own favorite.

We’re Thinking Of You

August 30, 2021

This candle is for all those affected by Ida.

It’d Been A Different Story If I’d Been Thirteen! (I Still Miss You, Buddy.)

January 21, 2021

I’m not exactly sure why, but I found myself thinking about my cousin Jimmy this morning. He passed some years before the birth of my son, but I still remember Jimmy as being my fun (if occasionally jerky) older cousin, and wanted to honor him appropriately.

Hey, Jimmy! Remember when you were so proud of yourself when you beat me at Clue? I just want to say that the reason you beat me is the same reason that I didn’t steal your college-bound girlfriend away from you . . . because I was twelve!

Happy New Year Everyone!

January 1, 2021

I think I’m going to keep it simple today and leave any pensive musings for next week.

I’ll Talk To You Later

December 24, 2020

Originally I was going to write something longer (and honestly, not that festive), but L’s mother is waiting for me to wrap this up, and I think my holiday is better spent with her than here.

Happy Holidays!