Archive for the ‘Candle’ Category

The Flowers Of My Discontent

January 17, 2018

Today someone dear to me buried their beloved grandmother, and I . . . sent flowers.

Even leaving aside the fact that flowers and I have a tumultuous relationship at best (I don’t hate flowers, mind you, but they don’t always return the favor), I’m just not a “sends flowers” kind of guy.  Particularly in times of bereavement, to me it just feels like an inadequate gesture with not even a drop-in-the-bucket’s worth of true value.  At least when you bring food by you know your providing much-needed nutrition and/or comfort, thereby actually helping in a difficult time.  Not sending flowers is almost a rule of mine.

But some things that are rules to me can trump that.

When I’m in bereavement don’t send flowers, send food or other assistance to help me get through, and beyond that just give me privacy while I grieve, but (and here’s where the rule comes in), this wasn’t about me!

I knew she’d like it if I sent flowers, so I sent flowers.  Despite how much I wish otherwise, there was little else I could do to ease her pain, and if it would have helped, for her I’d empty out entire florist shops if I could.

Hang in there, sweetheart.  You’ll get past this.


Post-Irma Thoughts (Part Four)

September 15, 2017

I hate to be the one to say this, but even as people recover from Irma, it’s important to keep in mind that hurricane season isn’t over yet, and even though the odds are against it, we may still have to do this again before the year is out.

Stay dry and safe out there.

It Was Either “King of the Rocket Men” Or “Radar Men From the Moon”

April 14, 2017

Yesterday we had another one of those “We all knew it was going to happen someday, but it happening today was still a bit of shock” deaths in the family.  At times like that there’s a detached part of me that always takes interest and observes my unfiltered reaction to such news.  This time around my first reaction was “I hope he enjoyed that stupid movie I got for him one of the previous times he was in the hospital.  I never did get around to asking . . .”

But I really hope you did, Earl.


Not All That Different Really

January 30, 2017

Upon hearing the news that a younger family member was engaged you . . .

Before the age of social media 

. . . thought to yourself, “he’s not good enough for her.”

After the age of social media

. . . check out his Facebook page then think to yourself, “he’s not good enough for her.”

(I’m kidding, kiddo . . . mostly.  He seems nice, but there’s a reason I keep my overprotective streak in check.  At times like this you could show me a guy who walks on water, and my first thought would be to wonder if he thought he was too good to get his feet wet or something.

All jokes aside though, congrats.)

Definitively Answered

December 29, 2016

Admittedly, one of the reasons I was originally reluctant to mention Carrie Fisher’s passing was because I felt the focus was too much on fan reactions, and not enough of what I felt should be the primary concern, namely, “How is her family, particularly her mother, holding up?”

I guess we can now consider that question answered.

R.I.P. Debbie Reynolds.

All In All, There Are Worse Ways To Go

December 28, 2016

Because so many other people were commenting on Carrie Fisher’s passing, I wasn’t going to, but then I noticed how many people were getting the details wrong.

The other day Carrie Fisher drowned in moonlight, strangled by her own bra.

Lest It Be Lost Amid Everything Else Going On

November 11, 2016

Happy Veterans Day.

Another Thing I’m Not Going To Top Today

October 12, 2016

The following is a paraphrased conversation from this morning:

He:  Did I not mention that the quadruple bypass happens today?

Me:  Seeing as you didn’t mention to me that there was going to be a quadruple bypass at all, I’m going to have to say no.

(Good luck.)

An Idea Whose Time Has Come

June 13, 2016

The following link is NSFW due to language, but it sums up my reaction to the events in Orlando almost perfectly:

The NSFW link.

To make it perfect, I think the initiative should also be extended to anyone who attempts to use an event like this for their personal political soapbox.

This candle is for all the victims and their loved ones.

A Follow-up Letter To L(A) (Part Five)

May 27, 2016

Regardless . . . now matter how or why this happened, be it due to capricious and uncaring chance, or if there was intent behind this, be it divine or simply yours, the fact remains that my personal space is missing you right now.  Even before this began I knew there was no absolute certainty in your arrival, but usually when I think that way I’m just preparing for “the worst.”  Most of the time that preparation isn’t actually required.

This time it was.

Speaking of time, time will tell if we’ll ever get to meet outside of my dreams, and for now I’m content to wait and see.  If you changed your mind once about being born, the way I figure it, you can always change your mind again, and I’m honestly hoping that you do, but if you don’t . . .

Well . . . there’s always plenty of room for another girl of my dreams.

Either way, I’ll leave the light on for you, kiddo.