Archive for the ‘Candle’ Category

I’m Really Going To Miss Their Work Though

October 16, 2019

Regardless, the particular reason my mood was pensive on Monday was because on Monday I found out someone whose work I used to follow had suffered the latest in a series of personal tragedies.   (Details were kept deliberately vague, but I managed to find out enough to conclude the announcement was genuine.)  I wasn’t close to this person (I hadn’t even followed their work in over a year, nor did I know of any of the hardships that had led up to the latest event), and I only found out about the situation indirectly.

Understandably so, this person’s work had been suffering for quite a while now due to said series of hardships, and there had also been some instances of them lashing out at their fan base after being criticized or called out (rightly or wrongly so) over something.  Stress can do that to a person, but apparently all of this culminated in them not only announcing they were no longer going to be producing any further work, but them pulling their entire body of previously published work out of public circulation.

I’m not going to lie.  This seems . . .  extreme to me, and I can certainly understand the feelings behind the criticism from their fan base this action has generated.  I’d like to think that I’d never do such a thing, but I can imagine hypothetical scenarios (however far-fetched) where I’d at least consider it, so . . .

I’m just going to go with compassion on this one, and wish them luck and hope that things someday get better for them.

A Brief Silence

June 25, 2019

Silence, and a candle for all those people in your life you were once close to and now . . . for one reason or another, you’re not anymore.

Oh, Riiiight! Happy Birthday Then!

June 12, 2019

Why am I wishing this person a happy birthday via social media again?  I asked myself this morning.  We haven’t talked in years, I can’t remember the last time they even acknowledged when I sent them any well wishes, and odds are good they’re not checking their own page anymore anyway, so . . . why?

Because it’s their birthday, the answer came back, and if they do check their page you want them to know you were thinking of them even if they don’t acknowledge you, remember?

A Candle And A Drink Raised In Toast

May 30, 2019

(Just in case you don’t know why I’m doing this today .)

My Reaction In The Wake Of Hurricane Michael

October 11, 2018

Damn.

Just . . . damn.

Good Luck!

October 10, 2018

MUCH delayed, but this candle is for all those in the path of Hurricane Michael.

A Brief Silence

June 25, 2018

Silence, and a candle for all those people in your life you were once close to and now . . . for one reason or another, you’re not anymore.

Memorial Day Thoughts, 2018

May 30, 2018

Sooner or later I’m going to have to acknowledge that fewer and fewer people even know what I’m doing when I observe Memorial Day on May 30th.

In the meantime, this candle is for all those who fell in service.

Everyone Just Keep Breathing And It Should Be Better Soon

April 10, 2018

One of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to watch is a sick child struggling to breathe and sleep at the same time, and got to do that in the comfort of my own home and with the knowledge it was nothing worse than a minor cold.

Hang in there little name-brother.  This candle is for you and yours.

The Flowers Of My Discontent

January 17, 2018

Today someone dear to me buried their beloved grandmother, and I . . . sent flowers.

Even leaving aside the fact that flowers and I have a tumultuous relationship at best (I don’t hate flowers, mind you, but they don’t always return the favor), I’m just not a “sends flowers” kind of guy.  Particularly in times of bereavement, to me it just feels like an inadequate gesture with not even a drop-in-the-bucket’s worth of true value.  At least when you bring food by you know your providing much-needed nutrition and/or comfort, thereby actually helping in a difficult time.  Not sending flowers is almost a rule of mine.

But some things that are rules to me can trump that.

When I’m in bereavement don’t send flowers, send food or other assistance to help me get through, and beyond that just give me privacy while I grieve, but (and here’s where the rule comes in), this wasn’t about me!

I knew she’d like it if I sent flowers, so I sent flowers.  Despite how much I wish otherwise, there was little else I could do to ease her pain, and if it would have helped, for her I’d empty out entire florist shops if I could.

Hang in there, sweetheart.  You’ll get past this.