Posts Tagged ‘Circle Of Need’

The Flowers Of My Discontent

January 17, 2018

Today someone dear to me buried their beloved grandmother, and I . . . sent flowers.

Even leaving aside the fact that flowers and I have a tumultuous relationship at best (I don’t hate flowers, mind you, but they don’t always return the favor), I’m just not a “sends flowers” kind of guy.  Particularly in times of bereavement, to me it just feels like an inadequate gesture with not even a drop-in-the-bucket’s worth of true value.  At least when you bring food by you know your providing much-needed nutrition and/or comfort, thereby actually helping in a difficult time.  Not sending flowers is almost a rule of mine.

But some things that are rules to me can trump that.

When I’m in bereavement don’t send flowers, send food or other assistance to help me get through, and beyond that just give me privacy while I grieve, but (and here’s where the rule comes in), this wasn’t about me!

I knew she’d like it if I sent flowers, so I sent flowers.  Despite how much I wish otherwise, there was little else I could do to ease her pain, and if it would have helped, for her I’d empty out entire florist shops if I could.

Hang in there, sweetheart.  You’ll get past this.