Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’

It Just Would Have Confused Things Too Much

October 8, 2020

It literally hasn’t been mentioned in years, but today the fact that L’s Mother didn’t take my name when we got married came up obliquely in conversation, and it got me thinking.

I remember some people wondering if that bothered me, and it didn’t then, and it doesn’t now. I’m actually grateful she didn’t take my name because can you imagine how awful it would to be to hear someone call out “Robert!” and neither of us knowing if they were to talking to me or her?

Her Response: “Well . . . YEAH!”

August 3, 2017

It turns out that a while back someone asked my wife and one of her coworkers what the secret of a successful marriage was.  The coworker stressed the importance of harmony and that the wife should tend to all the husband’s needs, wants, and comforts.

It was at this point in the story that I interrupted my wife’s telling to laugh and observe that “Clearly your philosophy is different!”

Today’s “Marriage Is . . .”

February 8, 2017

Marriage is giving personal priority to eating the broken chips in the bag because you are capable of understanding that they taste just as good as the unbroken chips.

(A case could be made that I should have resisted the urge here, but I regret nothing, nothing, I tell you!)

Bad Marriages (Part Two)

October 9, 2015

And it was bad . . . really, really bad.  They divorced . . . eventually, but they stuck it out longer than they probably should have, and do you know why?  If you do, say it with me:

Because so many people said it was going to be bad, trying to prove them wrong became a matter of pride for this couple.

Now there’s nothing wrong with giving someone fair warning, particularly if you see trouble ahead, but when it’s repeated over and over again, be it just by you or by a group, it becomes nothing more than opinion bullets, and again, pretty much the only result of firing those is causing your target to take cover and entrench.  So unless you want that to happen, keep your mouth holstered and stop thinking that because something is “your opinion” that makes it some kind of magic bullet.

Though actually . . . now that I say that, in a sense it is kind of like a magic bullet; fire it often enough and you pretty much guarantee that you’ll get the opposite of what you were shooting for.

So use those magic bullets wisely, okay?

Bad Marriages (Part One)

October 8, 2015

(This is a continuation of yesterday’s thought.)

Since people want to talk about marriage so much lately, let’s talk about marriage for a bit, and not the “Yay! marriage” variety favored by L’s Mother, but the kind of marriage that I personally oppose . . . you know, the “bad” kind.

A bad marriage is a unique form of misery all its own, and I’ve seen more than a few in my time, but one in particular comes to mind right now.  This marriage was just a bad idea from the start, so much so that people literally came from miles around to spray their unwelcome opinion bullets at this couple.  This was done mostly by family and friends, of course, but there came a point where it seemed like even strangers were crossing the street to say “Wow!  You two should not get married!”

Do you think this made a difference to the couple?  Well of course it did!

It made them want to get married even more than they had wanted it before, causing them to entrench on the matter, pretty much guaranteeing that they’d get married.

And they did.

But If You REALLY Want My Opinion On The Supreme Court’s Decision

July 1, 2015

I think both sides should count this as a victory, because from what I’ve seen, the fastest way to put people off marriage is to go ahead and let them do it.

How The Recent Supreme Court Decision Affects Other People I Know

June 30, 2015

To continue yesterday’s thought, the recent Supreme Court decision has profoundly affected people I know, of course.  It has made some of them very happy, it has made others very UNhappy, and seems to have left those not on either end of those extremes with a general sense of bemusement.

In other words, a fairly standard human reaction to any kind of change.

How The Recent Supreme Court Decision Affects Me

June 29, 2015

Honestly, I gave serious consideration to not broaching this subject since my opinion, while not unique, appears to be decidedly in the minority, but here goes:

So how does the recent Supreme Court decision on marriage affect me personally?

Not in the slightest.