Posts Tagged ‘Reality Check’

Fair Warning, I’m In One Of “Those” Moods Today

September 8, 2022

The other day I saw one of those inspirational messages that are ubiquitous on social media. This particular one was basically saying they were proud of anyone who that day or ever had pulled themselves out of a dark place mentally.

This is fine.

But my honest first response was, “Some of us call that moment ‘breakfast,’ you know!”

Inspired By A Recent Purchase Of Mine

January 4, 2022

As much as I hate to say it, you probably are accident prone when your friends start unironically gifting you things like band-aids and non-slip sauna shoes.

Yeah . . . I Do . . .

August 26, 2021

Today’s Morning Thought: I keep getting more that I need to do, so I must be getting better, right?

Today’s Morning Follow-up Thought: You know it doesn’t work that way, right?

I’m Still Finding That Kind Of Jarring

January 18, 2021

Yesterday I was in a zoom meeting and I was struck by the juxtaposition of my image on the screen (i.e., the image of a person you might expect to hear saying something like, “No, Mister Kent, I expect you to die.”) and my voice as child (that I’d heard earlier that day thanks to my mother finding some old tapes) saying, “Ah shure doo miss ya daaddy!”

Granted, There HAVE Been Extenuating Circumstances

July 23, 2020

“We’ve been consistently inconsistent these past several months,” I observed to L’s Mother this morning.

I’ve Read A Lot Of Things Like This Recently For Some Reason

November 1, 2019

Paraphrased (and exaggerated for effect) news article I read recently:  Family members say that the man who got lost in the wilderness for two weeks before falling into a ravine and subsequently devoured by wild animals lived life “without regret.”

Me:  I’m willing to bet there was at least a little regret there at some point!

Reason Number 432 Why I Am Not A Great Chef

July 4, 2019

Great chefs never announce that they are using some olive oil by using the words, “Oh, Popeye!

Besides, Three Terrible Moments Out Of A Week’s Vacation is Really, REALLY Good

May 17, 2019

“You’re making a bit much of this, don’t you think?” L’s Mother asked me last night.  “People are just trying to frame the positive, you know.”  (I’m paraphrasing, but you get the idea.)

A good case could certainly be made, I admit, but here’s my point:

Any frame that doesn’t reveal the whole picture is a bad frame in my opinion, and off the top of my head I counted three significant terrible moments with L. from our vacation. I don’t mention this to wallow and get entangled in those moments, but because while my son is ultimately responsible for his own behavior, each one of those moments were because he was overtired and/or being pushed into a situation he had been very clear he didn’t want to do, but he also lacked the decision making skills to navigate to what he did want to do.

Because he’s eight, and those coping skills will come with time.

By the end of the trip he’d learned a few things, and the adults learned a few things, just like the trip before.  Sure, next week I’ll probably talk about the fun moments, but I think the terrible moments (the ones we learn from, at least) deserve better than being glossed over.

If It Had Been, THAT Would Have Been Amazing

May 16, 2019

My dislike of being in pictures aside, again, I did have a good time . . . for the most part.  I’m not dwelling on the negative, I swear, but since we’ve gotten back, I’ve been mildly disturbed by how frequently I’ve heard the sentiment that our trip must have been “amazing”.

It certainly had its high points, yes, but I assure you a week spent with an eight-year-old can also have some significant low points, and this week was no exception.

What I Did Was Walk Too Damn Much

May 7, 2019

With love and respect to people who (like my sister) use phrases like “exercise milestones,” I did not reach an “exercise milestone” yesterday.